Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Making Divorce Affordable / Divorcio Economico

Making Divorce Affordable
 
The Illinois Supreme Court under rule 13 has unbundled legal services to make them more affordable.  You may now hire an attorney who can file a Limited Scope Appearance in a civil matter, to assist you with part of your case.  For Example in Family Law matters, retainers can range from $1,500 to $5,000 sometimes more depending on the complexities of the case.  If you feel you can handle the custody and property aspects of your case and you only need an attorney to help you with child support issues.   The attorney will help you only with child support issues and in turn you save money. 

Another cost effective method of finalizing a divorce is to hire a Mediator.  A mediator is a person who will assist both you and your husband or wife come to agreements regarding custody, property and maintenance for children or spouse.  A mediator (is often times a lawyer) and can draft all of the legal paperwork necessary so that you and your spouse are ready to walk into court, pay the fee and finalize your divorce without the hassle and expense of litigation. 

In Lake County Illinois the Court has now made Spanish interpreters available to assist the Latino community with any language barrier that may exist.  Having these interpreters helps the Spanish speaking community feel much more comfortable in accessing legal services at no additional cost to them. 


Divorcio Económico

La Corte Suprema de Illinois bajo regla 13 ha aislado servicios legales para hacerlos más accesibles. Ahora puede contratar a un abogado para representarlo en un solo aspecto de su divorcio.  Por ejemplo, en un caso divorcio habrán varios aspectos para la separación de bienes, cambio de nombre matrimonial, separación de deudas, custodia de niños, mantenimiento de niños, mantenimiento de pareja y muchos más.  Por su servicio legal un abogado cobraría desde $1.500 a $5.000 para empezar la representación en su caso.  Pero si sientes que puedes manejar los aspectos de custodia y propiedad de su divorcio, y usted sólo necesita un abogado para que le ayude a conseguir mantenimiento de niños.  Ahora el abogado le ayudará solamente con cuestiones de mantenimiento de niños y haci podrás ahorrar dinero.

Otro método beneficioso para finalizar un divorcio es contratar a un mediador. Un mediador es una persona que le ayudará a ambos, usted y su esposo o esposa, llegar a acuerdos con respecto a la propiedad, mantenimiento y custodia de hijos o cónyuge. Un mediador (muchas veces es abogado también) y pueden procesar todos los trámites legales necesarios para que usted y su cónyuge estén listos para ir a los tribunales, y finalizar su divorcio sin las molestias y gastos de demanda.

En Lake County Illinois el Tribunal ha hecho que intérpretes estén disponibles para ayudar a la comunidad Latina con cualquier barrera idiomática que pueda existir. Ahora tendrán más acceso a los tribunales sin preocupación de idioma. 


Saturday, February 1, 2014

Bancarrota La Ultima Opción

Archivar bancarrota es un paso muy drástico y debe ser la última opción.  En mi práctica de bancarrota eh aprendido que las personas que archivan bancarrota no necesariamente se quisieron ver en esa posición y muchos le da vergüenza hablar sobre sus problemas de dinero.  También eh tenido muchas personas que creían que se tenían que ir a la bancarrota pero un poco de consejo legal y financiar le ayudo ver otras formas creativas de salvar sus bienes y pagar sus deudas.

Las siguientes preguntas son frecuentemente parte de la primera consulta:

“Puedo archivar bancarrota con ITIN?”  Sí.
“Me afecta el estatus con inmigración?” No.
“Cuanto tiempo se queda en el record de crédito una bancarrota?” 8 anos.
“Me quitaran el carro?”  No, pero tienes que poder seguir pagándolo.

La mayoría de las personas que archivan bancarrota se vieron en este estatus por razones de enfermedad, divorcio, perdida de trabajo, uso de tarjetas de crédito e hipoteca de la casa muy alta.  La ley de bancarrota esta ahí precisamente para proteger contra colección cuando no hay dinero para pagar las deudas.  Usted y su familia puede seguir adelante después de haber sufrido algún gasto que no fue prevenido.  



Abogada Lilian G. González practica leyes de bancarrota, divorcio y problemas de licencia de conducir en la secretaria del estado.  La Corte Judicial del Condado de Lake ha nombrado la abogada González una mediadora del tribunal en casos de separación y divorcio. En el 2011 fue premiada por su abogacía en la comunidad de bajos recursos de condado de Lake. www.facebook.com/gonzalezlawoffice

Saturday, August 10, 2013

CHANGE IS CHANGE!

Yes, this is another blog about change.  Not that I’ve written any blogs about change but one surf through the net and you will see just how many blogs about change there are.  Ahhh, but of course my blog about change is different.  This blog is not here to inspire you to do anything, but think about change in its purest form.  Not necessarily directed at yourself, anyone, or anything – just



“I change my mind.”
“I’ve made a decision.”
 “I can’t do this anymore.”
“This is no longer a good idea.”
“It’s not a good fit.”  (my personal favorite)
“Oh grow up.”
“This is the last time I . . .”
“I quit.”

 

The many phrases of change.  I’m sure there are many more (feel free to add your own.)

 Change is just that, change.
 Change is different.


How others define and think of C H A N G E:


 . . . Theory of Change defines all building blocks required to bring about a given long-term goal.”  http://www.theoryofchange.org/what-is-theory-of-change/#3


  Change is something that presses us out of our comfort zone. It is destiny-filtered, heart grown, faith built. Change is inequitable; not a respecter of  persons.” http://www.iienet2.org/Details.aspx?id=3290


  “To give a completely different form or appearance to; transform.” http://www.thefreedictionary.com/change


   C H A N G E  “That is it, that is all.” Pure and powerful!
 


Saturday, March 23, 2013

Nicotine Dependence: History, Diagnosis & Treatment


The History of Tobacco
One of the first known uses of tobacco are from Native Americans in the Northern American regions they smoked tobacco as part of their spiritual ceremonies and for medicinal reasons.  “Tobacco is a green, leafy plant that is grown in warm climates. After it is picked, it is dried, ground up, and used in different ways. It can be smoked in a cigarette, pipe, or cigar. It can be chewed (called smokeless tobacco or chewing tobacco) or sniffed through the nose (called snuff).  (Jacobs, 1997, p 6)” In 1612 the North American settlers began selling their tobacco crops.  (Jacobs, 1997)
By 1881 a guy named James Bonsack “. . . invented the cigarette-making machine. . .” and went into business with another guy named James “Buck” Duke, together they formed the American Tobacco Company and sold Duke Durham cigarettes.  (Jacobs, 1997, p 8)  By 1902 Phillip Morris formed a company and made his own brand of cigarettes he called, Marlboro. “Since WW II, there have been six giant cigarette companies in the U.S. They are Philip Morris, R.J. Reynolds, American Brands, Lorillard, Brown & Williamson, and Liggett & Meyers (now called the Brooke Group).”   (Jacobs, 1997, p 9) 
Prior to the 1950s science had demonstrated that “. . . smoking caused lung cancer as well as other serious respiratory and cardiac diseases, leading to death.”  (Brandt, 2012, p 65)  In 1953 the cigarette companies started being accused of being the purveyors of lung cancer.  On, January 11, 1964,the U.S. Surgeon General, Luther L. Terry, released a statement to the public regarding the strong relationship, if not causal relationship, between smoking, lung cancer and other cardiovascular diseases.  (Terry, 1964)  One year later, the United States Congress passed the Cigarette Labeling and Advertising Act of 1965 (‘Act’).  The Act required that all tobacco companies include a label on their cigarette packaging that stated “Cigarettes may be hazardous to your health.”  (Jacobs, 1997) In 1980, the American Psychiatric Association included Nicotine Dependence as part of the Substance Disorders in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual’s third edition.  (Coszi, 2011)  And, by 1988 Dr. C. Everrett Koop, the United States Surgeon General, released a statement to the public that likened the dangers of nicotine addiction to cocaine and heroine addiction (Tolchin, 1988)
Diagnosis of Nicotine Dependence
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Fourth Edition Text Revision (DSM IV) sets out the criterion for substance dependence as “A Maladaptive pattern of substance use leading to clinically significant impairment or distress, as manifested by three (or more) of the following, occurring at any time in the same 12-month period:
1.      Tolerance, . . . [ingest more of the substance to obtain the needed effect or the effects are lessened with continued use of same amount]
2.       Withdrawal . . . [the body does not feel normal unless the substance or similar substance is present so the person may experience headaches, nausea, shaking, etc… ]
3.      the substance is often taken in larger amounts or over longer period than was intended
            there is a persistent or unsuccessful efforts to cut down or control substance use
4.      A great deal of time is spent in activities necessary to obtain the substance . . .
important social, occupational, or recreational activities are given up or reduced because of substance use
5.       the substance use is continued despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent physical or psychological problem that is likely to have been caused or exacerbated by the substance . . .”  (APA, 2000, p197) 
The DSM IV then sets out specific criterion to be met for Nicotine Dependence.  Because some of the criterion for Substance Dependence would not apply to Nicotine Dependence clarification of some of the criterion is needed.  For example there is no need for a nicotine dependent person to spend a great deal of time trying to obtain nicotine, as nicotine is readily available to the general public, as opposed to say, someone who is dependent on prescription medication who would have to go to see a doctor or several doctor before they were able to obtain the medication needed. (APA, 2000)  “Tolerance to nicotine is manifested by a more intense effect of nicotine the first tie it is used during the day and the absence of nausea and dizziness with repeated intake, despite regular use of substantial amounts of nicotine.”  (APA, 2000, p 264) 
Also, smokers smoke so that they don’t feel withdrawal symptoms, chain smoking could be considered “spending a  great deal of time” with the substance, people who don’t go places because they can’t smoke could be considered to be “Giving-up important social, occupational, recreational activities. . .”  and “Continued use despite the knowledge of medical problems related to smoking. . .”  (APA, 2000 p 265)  Someone is in Nicotine withdrawal if they are manifesting four of the following six criterion after “. . . the abrupt cessation or disruption of use of nicotine containing products . . .” 1.) dysphoric or depressed mood; 2.) insomnia;  3.) irritability,  4.) restlessness or impatience, 5.) decreased heart rate; 6.) increased appetite or weight gain.  (APA, 2000, p 265)
When making a diagnosis of nicotine dependence a clinician can use the specifiers for a diagnosis of Substance dependence to note whether the nicotine diagnosis is “With Physiological Dependence.  This specifier should be used when Substance Dependence is accompanied by evidence of tolerance (Criterion 1) or withdrawal (Criterion 2). [or] Without Physiological Dependence.  This specifier should be used when there is no evidence of tolerance (Criterion 1) or withdrawal (Criterion 2).  In these individuals substance dependence is characterized by a pattern of compulsive use (at least three items from Criteria 3-7).”  (APA, 2000, 195) Common features of a nicotine dependent individual are “tobacco odor, cough, evidence of chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, and excessive skin wrinkling.”  (APA, 2000, p 267)
There are several tests that can assist with the diagnosis of Nicotine Dependence.  One of the diagnostic tests is the Core International Diagnostic Interview (CIDI) developed by the World Health Organization (WHO) in 1997 as an international assessment tool for the diagnosis of mental disorders.  (World Health Organization, 1997)  Another test that is used to assess an individual’s level of dependence to nicotine is the Fagerstrom Test for Nicotine Dependence (FTND).  The shortened version of the FTND  asks six questions which focus on when a smoker smokes and the intensity of discomfort if he doesn’t.  There is a point scale given to each answer and the smoker is assessed as having a very low dependence, moderate dependence or high dependence on cigarettes.   (Balfour, 2000) 
Treatment for Nicotine Dependence
There are many types of treatment for Nicotine Dependence. Some of the treatments available for Nicotine Dependence are:  Pharmacological, Nicotine Replacement Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Smoking Cessation, Hypnosis, Acupuncture, Diet & Exercise and quitting Cold Turkey.   The most commonly used and proven effective treatments are pharmacological, nicotine replacement therapy (a type of smoking cessation) and cognitive behavioral therapy.  (Mayo Clinic Staff, 2010) 
One of the most effective medications for pharmacological treatment of nicotine dependence is  “Bupropion (Zyban®, Wellbutrin®, or Aplenzin®) [it] is a prescription anti-depressant in an extended-release form that reduces symptoms of nicotine withdrawal” (American Cancer Society, 2013, p 1) Another popular medication to stop smoking is “Varenicline (Chantix®) [it] is a prescription medicine developed to help people stop smoking. It works by interfering with nicotine receptors in the brain.” (American Cancer Society, 2013, p 1)  Neither of these medications contain nicotine but they assist an individual in quitting smoking Bupropion by alleviating some of the depression that may occur during the withdrawal from nicotine and Varenicline by minimizing the any sense of pleasure the smoker may think he gains from smoking.  (American Cancer Society, 2013)
Nicotine Replacement Therapy are gums, inhalers, patches, lozenges and nasal sprays that contain nicotine.  (National Institute of Health, 2013) “Available trials indicate that nicotine replacement therapy is an effective intervention in achieving sustained smoking abstinence for smokers who have no intention or are unable to attempt an abrupt quit”  (BMJ, 2009, p 1)  The BMJ research also found that counseling together with Nicotine Replacement Therapy was the most effective way to treat Nicotine Dependence.  (BMJ, 2009)
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Motivational Interviewing are two of the counseling methods used for most substance dependence treatment.  “Developed by Dr. Aaron T. Beck, Cognitive Therapy (CT), or Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), is a form of psychotherapy in which the therapist and the client work together as a team to identify and solve problems.” (Beck Institute Website)  Studies have shown that group therapy sessions using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy have doubled the chances of individuals quitting smoking and effectively achieving their treatment goals. (Stead, 2009)  Motivational Interviewing Therapy “MI is a collaborative method that elicits from patients their own motivation or reasons for changing their behavior.”  (Bisono, 2006, p72)  Motivational Interviewing is considered a form of effective listening to and questioning of the client in order to elicit the client’s own motivations for behavior change and defeat the idealization of negative consequences of the disorder as benefits to the client.  (Miller, 2009)
Most of the treatments for Nicotine Dependence recommend a change in diet and exercise to help reduce the cravings for nicotine.  The research suggests that the best treatment is a combination of treatment that combines individual or group counseling with medication or nicotine replacement therapy and some other lifestyle changes.  (American Cancer Society, 2013) 
References
American Cancer Society. (2013). Cancer Facts & Figures.  Atlanta, Ga. 2013 Retrieved from: http://www.cancer.org/acs/groups/cid/documents/webcontent/002971-pdf.pdf
American Psychiatric Association. (2000). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (4th ed., text rev.). Washington, DC: Author.
Balfour, D., Benowitz, N., Fagerstrom, K., Kunze, M. and Keil U. (2000) Diagnosis and treatment of nicotine dependence with emphasis on nicotine replacement therapy: A status report.  European Heart Journal 21, 438-445 doi: 10.1053/euhj.1999.1949
Beck Institute Website “n.d.” Retrieved from: http://www.beckinstitute.org/what-is-cognitive-behavioral-therapy/
Bisonó, A., Manuel, J., & Forcehimes, A. (2006). Promoting treatment adherence through motivational interviewing. In W. O'Donohue, & E. Levensky (Eds.), Promoting treatment adherence: A practical handbook for health care providers. (pp. 71-85). Thousand Oaks, CA: SAGE Publications, Inc. doi: 10.4135/9781452225975.n5
Coszi, F., Pistelli, F. and Carrozzi, L. (2011). Tobacco smoking: Why do physicians not make diagnosis?.  European Respiratory Review, 20, 119(62-63).   doi:10.1183/09059180.00007210
Jacobs, M. (1997). From the first to the last ash: The history, economics & hazards of tobacco. Mass. Department of Public Health grant to The Cambridge Tobacco Education Program, Cambridge Department of Human Service Programs. Tobacco Control Activities are supported by the Health Protection Fund, established upon passage of voter referendum Question 1 (Tobacco Excise tax).  Retrieved from:  http://healthliteracy.worlded.org/docs/tobacco/Tobacco.pdf
Moore, D., Aveyard, P., Connock, M., Wang, D., Fry-Smith, A., and Barton, P.,( 2009). Effectiveness and safety of nicotine replacement therapy assisted reduction to stop smoking: systematic review and meta-analysis. BMJ 2009;338:b1024 doi:10.1136/bmj.b1024
Stead, L. & Lancaster, T. (2013).  Group behaviour therapy programmes for smoking cessation. National Institute of Health.   DOI: 10.1002/14651858.CD001007.pub2
Terry, L., (1964). History of the surgeon general's reports on smoking and health. Center for disease control and prevention. Retrieved from:  http://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/data_statistics/sgr/history/index.htm
Tolchin, M. (1988) Surgeon general asserts smoking is an addiction. New York Times Retrieved from: http://www.nytimes.com/1988/05/17/us/surgeon-general-asserts-smoking-is-an-addiction.html

Sunday, March 3, 2013

What To Do If Someone Wants To Be Your “Formidable Foe”

I have been invited to be just that, but quite frankly I don’t know what that means, and yet here I am, right smack in the middle of another story. Now, you all know I can’t make this stuff up - right. 


Who says ‘formidable foe’ in the year 2013 – that phrase has got to be straight out of an Edgar Allan Poe story. So of course, I googled Edgar Allan Poe Formidable Foe – go ahead I’ll wait if you want to google it yourself – did you find this phrase “But the Floridian savage was a more formidable foe than his Mexican brother — more hardy of frame, and more implacable in his revenge.” Right out of Edgar Allan Poe, if she would have used one more word we could accuse her of plagiarism, but on with the rest of the story.

Webster’s dictionary defines formidable as an adjective and “something that causes fear and is difficult to overcome.” It defines foe as a “an enemy or opponent.” So, I guess this will be our starting point in the story. Yes, I have someone who wants to be my enemy or opponent and wants me to perceive them as something that causes fear and is difficult to overcome. 


Firstly, let me just say that I fear no man or woman. We are all human beings just here on this earth for a limited time and trying to figure this thing called life out. And, I was never taught to see people as my enemies. So then let’s say this person just wants me to perceive them as an “opponent that is difficult to overcome.” The problem is that she does not know that I am currently in a Masters of Psychology program. In this program I am currently reading the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. 


So, as a student of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders next year I would be able to diagnose “crazy,” and give it a luxurious name, such as bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, or schizophrenic disorder; but this year I get to call it what it is, this want to be “formidable foe” is just plain “crazy.” And, I am being made the brunt of the crazy’s craziness. 


I don’t know what to do if someone wants to be your formidable foe. I answered the call as best I could and now will have to leave it for the judge to decide. (I will post a follow up comment.) Thus far, one good thing has come out of this story, and that is that I was reminded of a great author. I leave you with this excerpt from the poem Dreamland by Edgar Allen Poe:

By a route obscure and lonely,
Haunted by ill angels only,
Where an Eidolon, named NIGHT,
On a black throne reigns upright,
I have reached these lands but newly
From an ultimate dim Thule—
From a wild weird clime that lieth, sublime,
Out of SPACE—Out of TIME.


Thursday, January 24, 2013

Stalker Stories

"He comes to my basement apartment and looks through the windows."  She said with tears of terror in her eyes.  "I don't know what to do, I've called the police but by the time they get there, he's gone and they tell me they can't do anything about it.  I don't know what to do attorney, I don't know what to do."  She continues shaking and crying.  "I'm so scared he's going to do something to me..."

Well, the truth of the matter is the police can not act on circumstantial evidence and mere allegations to request criminal charges be filed against the "stalker."  To obtain an order of protection against someone we also need more then just mere allegations and finger pointing. As an officer of the court, my hands are tied - we need evidence! How do we assist these individuals who feel terrified by another individual's intrusions on their lives?

"My husband just filed for an order of protection against me.  Can you please help me?  I wasn't stalking him.  Okay, I saw him driving around with this other woman and I followed them to her house.  The next day, I knew he was getting out of work early, so I left work early and followed them again.  I waited in my car for about two hours for him to come out of her apartment.  They left the apartment and went to to the store; at the store I got out of the car and yelled at him.  He asked me why I was following him.    But, he doesn't know I was following him, so how could he file for an order of protection?"

I took a look at the Petition for an Order of Protection, it was pure hearsay and allegation.  My job, is to defend the law.  In this case, my argument in court was that it would be unjust to provide for an order of protection based on the allegations, as the actions plead, did not rise to the level necessary under the law.  Therefore, no order of protection was issued.  However, I did admonish my client that what she did was wrong and she should not do it again.

"Ring. . . Ring. . . Ring..."
"Hello?"  
"Honey, you left the back door open again."
"No, I didn't"
"Yes, you did and the basement door is open too."
"I didn't go in the basement."
"The kitchen cabinet is open to -- my god can't you..."
"Get out of the house.  Get out.  I didn't do all that."

A couple's home gets broken into, with no initial signs of forced entry.  The conversation above was the beginning of the couple's realization, that this was not the first time, the intruder had been in their home.

Most people who are stalked are stalked by someone they know. Get educated and learn to identify stalking behaviors. If you see it, feel it or have been a victim of it, report it to the police, tell your family and friends what your thoughts are, and keep a journal of the "chronic coincidences"  surrounding your circumstances with the stalker.

National Stalking Awareness Organization's website is a great resource to learn more about the laws, behaviors and get help: http://stalkingawarenessmonth.org/awareness.

Be careful and keep an eye on your neighbors!!

*Disclaimer: These stories may or may not have happened to real people, in real events, in real time.

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Finding Your Life's Purpose


What is your life’s purpose?  What were you put on this planet for?  Do you know your passion?  How long will you continue to work at that job you hate?  

HERE ARE TEN EASY WAYS TO FIND YOUR LIFE’S PURPOSE:
 

  1. Set a goal so preposterous you won’t be able to stop laughing every time you think of it.
  2. Take a personality test. 
  3. Think back to when you were a child – what was the most fun you ever had?  Do that!
  4. Envision yourself as a powerful agent of change who has come to give you a makeover. 
  5. Buy the following books: The Artist Way; Ask And It Is Given;  A Purpose Driven Life; Eat, Pray, Love; or any book written by Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Eckhart Tolle, Joel Osteen . .
  6. Get hypnotized, see a psychic, hire a life coach (I’m available for one or all of these.) 
  7. Meditate, go to yoga, Reiki, get massages but stop the mental chatter. 
  8. Join a religious organization, go to 12-step meetings or find relevant workshops in your area.
  9. Get rid of fear and pessimism, don’t tell people your goals, stay motivated and plan for success.
  10. Forget everything I just said and follow these instructions: Wake up in the morning (or whenever) take a deep breath, thank God, plant your feet solidly on the ground before you, take another deep breath, love yourself and go about your day.  I promise you the rest will take care of itself. 

If number ten is too easy, then call or email me.  I will gladly assist you through steps one through nine, for a small commitment on your part and a nice hourly fee. 


Signing off as your 2013 Positive Psychology and Life Purpose Coach!!